Archive for the 'Positive' Category

May 11 2008

Act as If

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You want a really powerful technique that will knock the socks off your competitors and your customers? Just act as if.

Act as if you have already made the sale, you will sell more.

Act as if you have already beat your competitors, they will pick up on that and begin to panic.

Act as if you are already successful and people will begin to treat you that way.

My father was a master at this. He was a great salesman and later a great teacher. We would go to a college campus, or a football game, or sometimes just be out and about. I am always curious and would ask about a building, or I would say out loud how I wish we could go in there.

Off he would go, just pulling on doors to see which one was unlocked. I would get scared, but he would turn to me and say, “Act as if you were supposed to be here and no one will say anything different”.

Guess what? He was right, he was always right. We would get inside the private practice facilities of major sports programs (I will not tell you which). One day we decided to go into the science building of a large university. Before we knew it we were in the reptile lab with several graduate assistance and they were pulling out exotic snakes, lizards, turtles, and things that I did not know even existed.

Why? My father just went in and started asking quesitons. He was genuinely curious. When he asked he acted as if he expected them to answer him. He was not rude or disrespectful. He was not loud and boastful. He was not overbearing. He simply asked and waited for them to answer in a very polite and respectful manner.

You know what? They always answered. They always were happy to answer. No one ever questioned why we were there.

He acted as if. It was great fun, it was harmless, and I got to see many things that I never thought I would see.

Just act as if, and see where it gets you!

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May 07 2008

Smiling Does More Than Make People Think

Dalai Lama SmileYou know the old phrase, ’smile, it will make people wonder what you are up to.’ Well a simple smile can go a long way.

You ever wonder how that person gets his or her way all the time? You know that person. The one who always gets the best tables, the one who always gets the free give aways, the one who never seems to get in trouble for anything. You know them. How do they do it?

Watch them. Most likely (there are always exceptions to every example) they do not get this through intimidation, they do not get their way through being grumpy and gruff, they do not get their way yelling Smiling Childand throwing a fit. Watch them. They probably have a really good smile and are not afraid to show it.

I admit it, I am a sucker for a good smile. There are students that I have that will get away with a lot more than others, simple because they smile. Not just the girls either, the guys can do it just as well. They will do something silly or dumb. They will bend the rules to the point where I have to say some thing and they will turn around with a smile and say “Sorry, Mr. Coach Kip” and somehow it will be all right. Another kid will do the same thing and I will say the exact same thing to them and they will instead give me an attitude about the whole thing. That never ends well, usually ending with them in the principles office and me continuing on with class.

In the book How to Have Confidence and Power in Dealing with People Les Gibons says

A smile is relaxing, a smile shows confidence. A smile shows that you “just know” the other fellow is going to come through

There are two ways you can apply a simple smile in your every day life.Baby Tooth Smile

For You: William James once said that it is impossible to feel pessimistic when you have the corners of your mouth turned up. So smile during your day. You will feel better. This will translate to others. Be happy with you life, who you are, and how things are going. If they begin to turn sour just smile. You will be surprised how this works wonders. Looking at things optimistically will help you solve problems, not add to them.

For Others: Smiling when asking someone to do something for you will almost compel that person to do it for you. A smile will tell that person that what you are asking will make you happy, and is probably not that bad. People want to please others so they will feel compelled to do it. Smiling also takes Smile Makeoverthe sting out of less than pleasing news. Now you wouldn’t want to smile when you tell someone that their Mother has died, but a smile while saying “I am sorry but you will have to do this report over again, I know you can do better” will greatly soften the blow and tell the person that you still believe in them.

A good smile takes little practice unless you have not used it often lately. A good smile does not come from a combination of muscles in your face that turn the corners of your mouth up. A good smile comes from deep down inside. It comes from the heart. Smile from the heart and you will find that life will be more enjoyable, more fun, and a heck of a lot easier.

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Apr 27 2008

Living and Dying

Grandma KipkeMy Grandmother who was 98 just passed away. It is very sad, but it is also a very happy time. She was ready, and had been ready. I am sure that it was very frustrating for her for the last few years. Her mind is as sharp as ever, and we as a society let them go to waste. She knew everything about everything right up to her final days. How do I know this? I visited her just three weeks ago. It is a long trip about 250 miles (about 402 km), but I am glad I saw her. We are close, probably even closer now.

I do not want to get to spiritual because I know my views are very different from most people, even though I see them as being more balanced, but I know that her spirit is still alive and well. It makes me cry to think that she is with my Grandfather now, who she missed dearly.

Old CarIt all puts things into very sharp perspective. My Grandmother was a very great lady, living from 1910 until Friday. Incredible. So what does that really mean? What did she do with her life, how did she live it? What happened in history? Heck she was married during the great depression. Her husband was told to stay home during the war to take care of his family and manage factories that supplied the war. One son was in the Airborne Rangers, another in Vietnam. One Grandson is now in Iraq. There were tremendous changes in civil rights, the economy, technology, and even transportation.

But there she sat in her room needing assistance to do nearly everything for the last 5 years. A mind full of wisdom and history, a mind that really needed to be exposed to the world. There she sat waiting for her next visitor, watching the Detroit Tigers. She was very disappointed that Brandon Inge got moved to the outfield this year by the way.

So what can we learn from this? Things that seem big to us really are not. My grandmother lived through all that stuff without anything really effecting her. It is part of life. Things happen, situations arise, come, are dealt with and we move on. It does not really change what life is all about. It does not really change the things that are important. What is important is are you happy personally? Are the people around you happy? Are you contributing in a good and positive manor? Are you making a difference?

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Mar 22 2008

Life Does Not Own YOU!

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Who owns your life? You do. Actually the only thing you truly own is your life. I got that from a Los Lobos song called A Matter of Time. It is a great song.

 

It struck me that too many people go through life thinking that they are a part of life, that life owns them, they can only react to what life gives them. It is completely the opposite.

 

In the path of discovery we must first go through this step. We must, as Dr. Phil says, ‘get control of ourselves before we can ever begin to grow’. Of course I am paraphrasing but it seems that the messages are almost all the same.

 

It does not matter who you talk to, or listen to, or watch, they have a similar message. Life does not take you where you want to go as the popular saying goes, you take life where you want it to go. You own it.

 

Take control.

 

Take charge.

 

Live life and have fun.

 

Conceive It, Believe It, Achieve It

Coach Kip

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Mar 20 2008

Where Does Life Take Place?

Life takes place in a 6 inch space. That is the space between your ears. Life happens in your brain, and your brain only. It is your choice to have and do what you want. You make the decisions either consciously or unconsciously. You control everything you do by your big, beautiful, wonderful, brain.

 

stoogesfootballGarbage In Garbage Out. So why do you do some of those things that bring you things that you don’t want. Garbage In Garbage Out. Look at what you watch on TV. Is it good? Does it have a strong positive message? Do you feel good about yourself after you have watched it? Is it worth watching after all? Most shows on TV do not have a good message. Sitcoms may make you laugh for the half hour that they are on, but what is the humor. It is usually slapstick, and put-down humor. So what do you do when you see your friends? You use slapstick and put-down humor. Sure it was funny when you saw it last night, but is it funny when you put-down a friend just to humor yourself. I hope not. Don’t worry they are probably used to it since it is a good chance that they saw the same show. Garbage In Garbage Out.

 

Now what if you put some good information into yourself last night. What if you read a good book, or a good blog. What if you looked up some things on YouTube like I posted a few days ago. What if instead of spending $50-$100 a month in cable fees you spent the money on a good personal coach. Maybe a Tony Robbins lecture, or heck maybe you sent an email to Coach Kip to see if he would be willing to chat with you. Positive In Positive Out. What if you gave your friend a compliment the first time you saw them. ‘Hey buddy, nice shirt, where did you get it?’ They may take offense to it at first, expecting a put-down on the other side, but they will get used to it. What if every time you saw them you complimented them? What would happen when your car wouldn’t start the next town over. Would they come. Absolutely they would.

 

It is up to you to decide. You have to make a conscious effort to help your unconscious brain perform the way you want it to.

 

Conceive It, Believe It, Achieve It

 

 

Coach Kip


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Mar 18 2008

What did Positve Thinking Ever Do For Anyone?

How can the way one think effect everything that happens to them? Is it due to an attitude? Is it a perception? Is it a physical thing that is happening?

The easy answer is yes. It is all those things. Positive thinking effects everything that happens to us, and everything that goes on in our lives. It changes perceptions, it changes attitudes, and it is a physical thing that can manifest into infinite possibilities.

How? Lets take them piece by piece.

Perception

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By simply thinking positively you can change the perception of everything. If you are having bad thoughts, negative thoughts you will begin to see the bad and negative things in everything around you. You will see every negative piece of everything. You probably know someone like that. You probably have observed them tear something down that you saw to be really great. They don’t even see the good things. They are blinded by their negativity.

perception2You have probably been in a situation where you are in a good mood and happy. You see all these great and positive things. You are very happy. The negative person with you sees none of that. Your positive thoughts let you see more than what is there. You see the beauty of everything. It is a much happier existence.

Attitude

Thinking positively will change your attitude toward everything. I hope that some of you who are reading this are teachers. Teaching is truly the greatest profession, and it is the least appreciated and least compensated. How do you look at your students? Actually lets take it one step further. How do you look at your low performing students?

attitudeIf you look at them negatively how will they act? They will act negatively. They will do poorly on test, they will act out in class, they will rebel and you have no idea why. It is because of your subconscious negative attitude toward them. You have already decided that they are going to do negative things. They are simply living down to your expectations. OK not you I know. But you probably know of teachers who are like this.

What if you look at these same low performing students in a very positive light. What if you simply look at these low performing students as great students who have yet to get the information needed to shine? What will they do then? They will start off as a dull light bulb. They will not really know what is going on. They are probably used to having people look at them negatively all their lives. You begin to look at them in a positive light and they do all right but they still are not sure how to act. When they figure it out they begin to shine. Sometimes becoming the best students in your class. They begin to shine like the sun. Why?

It is your attitude. You put that positive attitude in your students through your positive thoughts. It is infectious. They begin to think positively about themselves, and the class. They begin to do well. They are now stars.

Physical Process

So how does your positive thinking transfer into physical things? I am about to get really technical now but stay with me if you are not so technical. It will make sense in the end.

electricwaveYour brain gives off small electrical pulses when you think a thought. It can actually be measured. There is a great explanation to this in the DVD The Secret. That electrical impulse has to effect something. What does it effect? It effects other electrical impulses around you. It actually makes a small electrical field around you. Now do you want that electrical field to be positive or negative? I prefer it to be positive.

Whoa, that is a little deep. Lets make an example for the guys. Women you can follow along because it is about you to. Guys we have all been in a position where you look across the room and see a beautiful woman. Maybe it happened with your current girlfriend or wife. We see them and make eye contact. Now if we are too desperate she looks away and never looks back. Being desperate is a very negative frequency in thought. Women hate this. But what happens when we are confident, when womenincrowdwomenincrowdwe are happy/ When we are least expecting it? Don’t we usually seem to meet the best looking women when we are just having fun and least expecting it? Why? Because fun, happiness, and confidence is a very positive thought process. It is also very sexy to women. Am I wrong ladies?

That positive feeling and thought process sends little electrical waves or electrical energy into the air. If you are happy isn’t it usually contagious? How does the good looking woman across the room notice you? It is not because you are being loud and obnoxious. It is because you are sending out the positive wavelength of a physical thought. She is picking up on that.

Try being positive about everything and anything of an entire day. Journal it. See how things have turned out. See how much energy you have at the end of the day. How do you feel? Are you ready for the next day?

Try it, your life will be much different using some positive thought.

Conceive It, Believe It, Achieve It

Coach Kip.

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Mar 05 2008

Don’t Watch the News

Published by Coach Kip under Choices, Gratefull, Happyness, Positive

I don’t watch the news for a few reasons. First it has become too opinionated. I don’t care if you are a Republican or a Democrat. I don’t care if you watch CBS or FOX. When was it the right or the responsibility of the news casters to give us their opinion of what is happening? When did they change from giving the facts of the news and what happened? Did I just grow up and realize what is happening? Has this always been this way? If so I just want the facts, I will have my own opinions thank you.

That is actually a secondary reason why I don’t watch the news anymore. The biggest reason is that I am not letting anything that is not positive in my life.

You can live your life how ever you want to live it. I choose to live my life in a positive manor.

When do people watch the news? When they wake up in the morning. When you wake up and turn on the news what happens? You get blasted by a whole bunch of negative things that happened while you were sleeping. You were sleeping because you were not doing those things. You were doing the right thing preparing for a productive day. So why would you want to wake up to such negativity?

Don’t worry you will be informed. You will know what is going on. You won’t miss anything important. Tim Ferris has a great experiment in his book (The 4-Hour Work Week). He says don’t watch any news or read any newspapers for a few days. It is really hard to do but you have to have some self discipline to do so. Then go out to eat at a nice restaurant. When the server comes to your table tell them that you just got back from a trip and you had not seen a newspaper. Ask them if anything important has happened in the news. You will be surprised to find out that you have not missed anything.

When else do people watch the news? Right before bed. So you wake up to negative news, and now you are about to end your day with negative news. Do you really want to have the last thing you think about negative?

Why did we say prayers just before bed when we were young? To give thanks? To get closer to god?

If those were your answers don’t think that you are wrong. I think that what prayers were meant to be is to give thanks, and be greatfull for a good day. They were meant to be positive. They were meant to be pleasant.

If you want to feel better about yourself, if you want to be more positive, don’t watch the news. You wont miss as much as you think you will, and you will feel better.

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Dec 12 2007

How much is your site worth?

Published by Coach Kip under Positive, The Challenge

Yeah I am making money now! Well not really. It is not a good indication of what my site is worth but it is fun to see. Hey maybe I can count this toward my Challenge, then I am only $7000 from reaching my goal. That is pretty sweet.

 


My blog is worth $2,822.70.
How much is your blog worth?

IF you would like to see how much your site is worth here is the link: http://www.business-opportunities.biz/

Have fun

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Dec 11 2007

Do you Believe even when it is Difficult?

Do you believe in the difficult things?

Having belief is one of those things that I am beginning to realize that maybe I am taking for granted. It is very difficult to describe. It is very difficult to explain the difference between being able to act as if you believe and actually believing. Let me try to explain with a true story.

While I was in college I was coaching a youth baseball team. This team consisted of 2nd and 3rd graders and was the first level above t-ball. Some call it coach-pitch, where the coaches lob easy to hit balls to their own players in order for them to get better at hitting the ball. In our league the players pitched the first three innings and the coaches pitched the last two.

That year, and every year before that, team McDonald’s was undefeated. Before the season started there was a draft, just like there is in pro baseball. The idea was to get as many players from your neighborhood or the friends of your kid that you were coaching, assuming that you were a parent. I was an older brother. Most of the dads sat in a classroom and browsed lightly through the list of players who had signed up. Picked a few that they knew and then just kind of went alphabetically down the list. Then there was the McDonald’s coaches.

McDonald’s sat over in the corner with papers upon papers of all the players. They had actually scouted the t-ball games and listed every player in order of how good they were and drafted accordingly. To put it in simple terms it took me about 30 seconds to make a pick and it would take a huddle of 4 grown men about 5-10 minutes to pick every round. It was a painful experience for everyone else. We just wanted to get it over with and get back home.
So of course McDonald’s was stacked. They had not lost a game in 4 or 5 years, and it looked like they would not lose a game this year. Every game was a blowout and many were called after the 3rd inning due to the mercy rule. They had nice clean uniforms with McDonald’s in the familiar red and yellow across the front, and their names on the back. Even their helmets were shinny new and red. They were a machine.

Our team? I don’t even remember our sponsor that year. We had generic yellow and blue uniforms with cheap white pants and a cheap mesh hat that was uncomfortable. Our batting helmets were the traditional dark blue, dirty, and warn. Our bats were few and far between and every year we hoped that some parent would go out and buy one that the rest of the team could use. It was a mismatch.

But somehow we were 3rd in a 12 team league and of course McDonald’s was first. The mid season showdown was upon us.

The night before I would sequester myself to my room and make out the lineup. I was still in college and came home for the summers so I was still living with my parents. Of course everyone on the roster had to play so through careful planning I would make sure that my best players were always on the field with my weaker players to give us a good balance. I would also make sure that I played my weaker players early and my better players later so that if we needed to we could hold off a late charge by the other team. I had a feeling about this lineup. I was confident. It wrote itself. I checked it over a few times, I counted everything up twice to make sure that everyone had at least their minimum playing time. We were ready.

I seem to remember that the game was on a Tuesday night. It was late in June and it was beautiful. The ball park was filled with parents and players and all 12 diamonds were in use. We were on the field that was furthest from the parking lot. A nice field in the corner of the complex with a nice shade tree over one dug out. Of course McDonald’s was already there with that dugout when I got there an hour before the game started. We sat starring directly into the sun.
As the game got closer we took the field and had our warm-up. Everyone on the roster showed up. I won’t lie I wanted a few players to miss the game, and it was actually rare that all the players showed up. We had a really good warm-up.

Just before the game started there was a little electricity in the air. Even though they were only 2nd and 3rd graders they knew what the game meant. They knew that the other team had not been beaten. They knew what the chances were. The parents definitely knew what was happening. They started to crowd the dugout to give last words of encouragement. It was a little too crowded for me so I took the whole team out to left field. We got out there just before the first batter was due up.

They sat around me, all those little eyes on a 20 year old. This is all I said. “You know what? I believe we can win”

I will never forget the look I got from them. I could tell every one of them believed. They only believed because I did. They all broke into a grin and we trotted back into the dug out.
The first inning we scored 2 runs against their best pitcher. I knew he was their best because they did not pull him. We ended the inning with two runners left on base.

Our ace pitched well and held them to one run. They hit the ball but we played well in the field and made outs. It was a victory in itself. That was the good news. The bad news was that we were now heading to the bottom of our order. McDonald’s bottom half was probably at least as good as our top half. Our bottom half very rarely produced any runs.

We started off with two straight hits. It was fantastic. We had no outs and the three worst batters up. Bang! Hit into the outfield drive in a run. Bang! Hit into the outfield another run. Our worst batter was up. I am not sure if he had a single hit all year. BANG! Right into right field. So hard that it went all the way to the fence. Everyone went crazy. Two more runs scored. My third base coach was so excited that he did not realize that he would be coming around and failed to tell him to stop. It looked as if my worst hitter would have an inside the park home run.

It was close but he was tagged out at home. The dugout emptied and the team mobbed him. 4 runs one out and we were back at the top of the line up. We had three more hits and scored two more runs. 6 runs against the top team. We were definitely believing. They went through three pitchers that inning. The rule was that one pitch in an inning counted and the players were only able to pitch one inning. They could not have many left could they?

They came back and scored 3 and it was now 8-4 I knew that if we were to win we would need to build a lead with the kids pitching. Once the coaches pitch everyone hits the ball so fielding is the premium. I knew that they could hit the ball.

They held us to one the next inning and they got two. It was 9-6 very high scoring in a normal game for kids pitch, and very very high scoring for any team against McDonald’s. Now it was Coach Pitch. We lobed them in nice and easy and teams frequently scored 6 and 7 runs an inning.

We scored 3. Their defense was better than I expected. They scored 6. We played well but they had runners on base and we had a double play at home plate to end the inning.
Score 12-12. We were getting nervous but there was no time that we felt like we might lose. We were also back to the top of our order.

We hit the ball all over the place. They were scrambling. One hit after another it was great. Our players were just running and the whole place was excited. I stole a glance at the McDonald’s dugout. It was a combination of disappointment and panic. I don’t think that they knew what to do.

We scored 5. It was now 17-12. A very high scoring game. You would think that the defenses were no good but it was a great game. There were very few errors and the pitchers really did not pitch bad, at least for that age. All you really hoped for was that your pitcher could get the ball over the plate so there would not be many walks. Both pitchers were doing so and the players were just hitting the ball all over the place. Right field, left field, up the middle. It was like watching a good semi-pro game. It was exciting.

My best moment came right now. As I said earlier I sat down and planned out my lineup and where every player would be at every inning. I could have changed things around that inning to make sure that we had our best players in the field…but I didn’t. I stuck with the lineup. They went into the field, all were confident. The first hitter pulled it right into right field. Remember the kid who never had a hit until this game? Yes you guessed it there he was. He stuck his glove into the air. The ball seemed to hang. His body twisted back away from the ball but he held his glove in place. The ball hit his glove and stuck there. He caught it. Me and the dads who were helping me as base coaches all gasped a huge sigh of relief. I stepped out of the dugout.

“Thats one” I said acting as if I knew he would catch it all the time.

They then went on to real off three straight hits, scoring two. It was 17-14. Getting close. Man on first. The kids never panicked.

The batter up hit one down the right field line. A ball that if fair would have certainly been an inside the park home run. There was no way my right fielder would have made the play even if he was a good fielder. Somehow the McDonald’s coaches had taught them to hit it to right field. A very difficult task even for pros. The next pitch was nice and easy. The batter drilled it to our second baseman. It was a catch-em-out, tag-em-out. A single handed double play. The game was over!

Our players stormed the field, it was if we won the championship. No team had beat them in at least 4 years. Until now.

The second best time came while I was walking back across all the other diamonds to the parking lot. We were on our way to get ice cream (of course). I was carrying our equipment bag and walking with a few of my players.

“What was the score?” one of the parents asked.

“17-14” I didn’t even have a chance to get it out of my mouth, one of my players spoke up.
“We won!”

“No way?” the parent exclaimed.

I just smiled and kept on walking. I knew what would happen behind me. It would be chaos. The whole summer baseball season was going to be turned upside down.

Now every team would think that they had a chance. Every team would know that McDonald’s was beatable. And we did it.

We did not win the Championship, we lost in the semi-finals. McDonald’s did win it all, and that was their only loss. But you know what? We were the ones to do it.

We did it not on superior players, certainly not superior coaching, we did it on belief. We thought we could win, and we believed we could win, and we won.

It was a magical moment that I will never forget.